The Reasons of Violence in Children and 8 Ways to Deal With It

• Rabab Ahmed
• 04/03/2019
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Violence between children is harmful to them and their surroundings, which causes parents to feel anxiety and fear of dealing with them. There are various forms of violence, including verbal, physical, behavioral, or just random violence of mixed types without a specific character.

In this article we will give you 8 tips and advises to facilitate dealing with this type of children's behavior:

What does a violent child looks like? 

It is noted that the violent child is characterized by movement, the desire to provoke others, quarrels and intransigence, anger and nervousness, does not like to cooperate or share with others, and seems selfish and a lover of ownership and control.

Causes of violence in children:

Violence in children may be an attempt to get rid of adult mistreatment and excessive pressure. Adults often prevent children from doing whatever they want, which is a violent reaction to these pressures. Which he wants, may increase his aggression if someone refuses to do what he asks, and faces that refusal by shouting and cracking.

The child tries to imitate adults, especially if one is nervous. This affects the child's behavior negatively and may also be violent because of jealousy. The child has aggressive behavior toward those who are jealous of him. Therefore, he does not ignore the child and always feels his value.

Methods of treatment of violence in children:

1- Logical punishment:

 To remove the child from the place where the violence is practiced, and to understand that he can return to it if he feels that he is prepared to join others, but without harming them, and to refrain from punishing the child in such cases.

2- Keep calm:

 Parents should avoid dealing with aggressive children with violence, screaming, and beatings, as this increases the child's violence and helps him to invent new ways of being aggressive, as he considers parents to be his model in everything.

3- Set clear limits:

Setting the clear boundaries is by making any reaction that the child feels he has done wrong, and not waiting for him to repeat his action, since it is possible to punish him by limiting his movement a bit, although these steps often work.

4- Apology:

The child must be accustomed to apologizing every time he discovers an inappropriate behavior or harms him around him by teaching him to utter the words of apology to those who harm them.

5- Reward and enhance the positive side:

 The child should be stimulated and rewarded every time he acts, the lack of focus on his negative side, the neglect of this aspect, the lack of any importance towards him, and the attempt to enhance the positive side.

6- TV monitoring:

 Parents should set limits on the programs the child sees, especially if they encourage violence. The number of hours a child watches for television should be reduced, and the child should be consulted while watching his favorite programs, discussing his views on the behaviors he sees.

7- Monitoring Child Behavior:

Parents are encouraged to monitor situations in which the child is aggressive, to try to identify the reasons for the violence, and to seek solutions to them, in order to reduce and stop them.

8- Behaviorist or therapist consultation:

Sometimes it takes the intervention of a doctor or psychologist to deal with excessive aggressiveness in some children. Some of them are in need of psychiatric treatment, because their behavior in this way is often due to a reaction to a position or behavior.